Sex Addict

"Floyd, I don't think you understand where I'm at. You're confusing a normal person who wants sex and a sex addict"

"ok" I say, "which one do you think that I think you are?"

"A normal person who wants sex"

"Yeah, that's what you are."

"No I'm not, I'm a sex addict!"

My friend Ned got in trouble with his wife because he woke her up in the middle of the night and wanted to have sex but she told him no, but he did it anyway. She said it was rude. I thought that was an understatement.

The issue is deeper than that. This guy loves his wife, he really does. I know what he did was a selfish and inexcusable act, but he really loves her. She's a good looking lady and he says that every time he sees her he wants sex. "Floyd, she turns me down 10 times a day, everyday". I believe him. He isn't a pervert, he isn't into all kinds of weird sex stuff, he just loves his wife and thinks she's the most gorgeous creature he's ever seen and wants to do it with her...all the time.

She isn't that into it. She has sex with him sometimes, I'd guess once a week at the most, but well within normal amounts for most married people. His perspective though is that it doesn't hurt her to have sex, and it helps him, so if she loved him she ought to be willing to help him out. Just like he would be willing to rub her back several times a week if it were sore.

Ned is convinced that he is abnormal, but everything he's told me sounds very similar to what I've heard from a lot of other guys and what I've personally experienced to be true. If I had sex with my wife as often as I wanted to I'd have to quit my day job.